I'm assuming you're talking about pvp since that what most of your posts are about?

In general max health can be pretty good to stack if you really want passive defense and strong healing effects that scale from it. Otherwise spell/weapon damage is the way to go. I don't think anyone outside of a few niche builds use max stats anymore. I have 50k max stam on a sorc but that's mostly just for funsies. Outside of that I usually run maybe 15k to 20k of mag and stam.

Every build needs a recovery strategy and part of that depends on how you play. If you're solo and constantly spamming skills you're going to need a lot of recovery. If you play with others you can usually just manage your resources by diving in to the front line when you're ready to do a big attack and then pulling back. The passives from your armor and your class plus any additional active skills plays a huge part in it.

Here's and example for that max stam sorc I mentioned. It has like no stam recovery. None. But it does have decent bit of mag recovery. I also use the cp that lets me recover mag while sprinting. Along with immovable mag pots I can keep my mag topped off pretty well. This means I can cast dark coversion to convert that mag into stam plus gain some extra stam recovery from the effect over time. This additional recovery is almost enough to counteract the costs of sprinting... which means I can almost recover that mag for nearly free over a period of time while sprinting. Because I have a massive stam pool I can go in for a long winded series of attacks and really lay on the pressure and still have plenty to roll dodge, breakfree, block, and sprint back out before I run dry. At that point I just use the above strat to quickly regain stam and I'm ready a few seconds later.

On the other hand my warden is a breton that uses bull netch. She runs jewels of misrul for a little bit of recovery and uses lotus blossum to proc the passive that restores stam or mag. Using this alone I can run nothing but damage glyphs and sets. Even with like 1k recoveries and 15k stam and mag I can usually sustain just fine as long as I constantly heavy attack and keep my damage window to a very short period of time. I don't cast skills until I absolutely need to.

Take a look at your passives and active skills and then build around that. You can also try forgoing all recovery for a while and practice learning how to sustain without it. Who knows? You might like it so much you decided to stay that way.

@Janni - I am looking at my CP again!
Good way to keep the stam up while having solid magicka!

@Luckylancer It is going into health!

TankZ!