I have been in maybe 6-7 different guilds, many of them start off great and then they either get frustrated when they hit their skill ceiling plateu, or its the same core of players playing together, and the rest of the guild is just tempoary replacements for said core.

That is usually around the time I leave to find somewhere else.

In my quest to clear content I also noticed the tell tale sign of a bad player is one who dies, and blame the team.
Even if it is the fault of the team you should be able to form a constructive conversation about it. If you can't do that you should probably leave the situation instead of getting frustrated...

When it comes to forming groups I have had much more succes with Pugging even though they're hit or miss.

I enjoy Pugs because if the team isn't up to the task I can leave the situation before I get frustrated.
If I form a group from guildmates I feel obligated to stay around, even when things don't go well...

Also with PUGs if I'm gifted with a good group I tend to ask if I can add them, if I feel like they got the same mentality to clearing content as me. That has been rather rewarding for me in many situations.

In my experience this approach has worked much better than guilds runs.

Its_MySniff wrote: »

I don't know, toxicity seems to be soooooooooo overused these days. Sure you aren't just looking for negatives? Good grief that word is played out.

Being called a R word and shouting all sorts of insults and offering zero advice sounds pretty toxic to me 🤷‍♀️

Ringing_Nirnroot wrote: »

notachik wrote: »

What’s an “R” word?

The forums censor the word, it’s pretty much being called a dumb person

Got it..that was the only word I could think of..ty for confirming

Well, I know this is an MMO and players who are in a group are expected to have different roles, but being primarily a solo player myself I have this crazy notion that each member of the group should be ready to self-heal and/or self-buff if needed, instead of always expecting the rest of the group to look after them and pamper them.

From what I've read in the forums, it sounds like some DDs act like the divas of the MMO universe, expecting the tanks and healers (and "lesser DDs") to grovel and pamper them. Then when they die, they get all toxic toward the rest of the group. To me, that sort of reaction is basically a big flashing neon sign that the player isn't nearly as good as they think.

But like I said, I'm primarily a solo player, so what do I know about it? /shrug

I'm on xbox and will run with you. and yeah, just try different guilds. Usually, if they expect me to be on mic or be uber sociable....I'm out lol. And yes, I've met my fair share of toxic ppl. But most are pretty helpful. Not sure why some ppl behave the way they do....it's like they never grew up or refuse to. Msg me and I'll send you my gt