I think someone mentioned a quest about a woman deciding between her husband and a female love interest in one of the removed threads. I haven't done that quest so I don't know what quest it was, but that could be an example of a bisexual character that breaks the mold of being viewed as excessive in their sexual activity. Then again, this may still be viewed as bad representation if it involves adultery instead.
spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always ove each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always ove each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
I agree with most of this, especially the second paragraph, but somehow I read that Isobel's crush was one-sided and unrequited, and we were helping her move on from this. I'd have to pay closer attention next time to see if Aurelia was bisexual, or only cared about Isobel as a close friend/sister-like figure.
If I missed something though and Aurelia was bisexual, I think it would be a good example for representation.
spartaxoxo wrote: »spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always ove each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
I agree with most of this, especially the second paragraph, but somehow I read that Isobel's crush was one-sided and unrequited, and we were helping her move on from this. I'd have to pay closer attention next time to see if Aurelia was bisexual, or only cared about Isobel as a close friend/sister-like figure.
If I missed something though and Aurelia was bisexual, I think it would be a good example for representation.
I got the impression the feeling was mutual from the quest, but that Aurelia had moved on long before Isobel and taken her friendship for granted. Aurelia also had both male and female suitors competing for her hand in the tournament.
spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is depicted as a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always love each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
Treselegant wrote: »spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is depicted as a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always love each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
I felt the storyline with Aurelia dragged a bit. Isobel seems to come to term with her crush and moving on/growing up very early on in the quest chain but then we continue to follow Aurelia around on her misadventures for another two quests before again coming to the same point. It just felt a bit insubstantial in comparison to some of the other companion quests.
spartaxoxo wrote: »Treselegant wrote: »spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is depicted as a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always love each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
I felt the storyline with Aurelia dragged a bit. Isobel seems to come to term with her crush and moving on/growing up very early on in the quest chain but then we continue to follow Aurelia around on her misadventures for another two quests before again coming to the same point. It just felt a bit insubstantial in comparison to some of the other companion quests.
I think that Isobel's companion story is unique because it isn't really her story. It's a couple's story. They were childhood sweethearts who needed to move on from one another, and figure out what they truly wanted in life. Despite Isobel having the stronger feelings for Aurelia, she moved on easier because she had a real purpose in life. Aurelia couldn't move on too until she found her own purpose, and when she was solving the mystery of Isobel's ring it wasn't really about Isobel, but about self discovery.
Aurelia's story doesn't conclude until she has gained purpose and meaning to her life, which turned out not to be romantic at all but rather a job for her to do that she enjoyed and was actually decent at it. That she found romance as well, with a man, was just the cherry on top of her sundae.
Since it was a couple's story and Isobel alone's story, I don't feel it would have been complete without Aurelia's part of the journey too.
That's my personal take on it.
spartaxoxo wrote: »Aurelia also had both male and female suitors competing for her hand in the tournament.
spartaxoxo wrote: »Aurelia also had both male and female suitors competing for her hand in the tournament.
Now that poses a question about arranged courtship in Tamriel. Auriela didn't choose her suitors. If Auriela weren't bisexual, would her mother have specified whether male or female suitors were eligible as opposed to in real life, in which it would be just men.
Smashing, everyone in fiction is contentedly single and families are groups of close friends who occasionally receive babies from storks or cliff racers.
spartaxoxo wrote: »Aurelia also had both male and female suitors competing for her hand in the tournament.
Now that poses a question about arranged courtship in Tamriel. Auriela didn't choose her suitors. If Auriela weren't bisexual, would her mother have specified whether male or female suitors were eligible as opposed to in real life, in which it would be just men.
I believe the mother said something about the witch/druid being present in the crowd too
Fine, they can deliver (near) fully grown adults who might be in their twenties or late teens, like that lad who gets kidnapped by a winged twilight somewhere around Vos.
spartaxoxo wrote: »Treselegant wrote: »spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is depicted as a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always love each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
I felt the storyline with Aurelia dragged a bit. Isobel seems to come to term with her crush and moving on/growing up very early on in the quest chain but then we continue to follow Aurelia around on her misadventures for another two quests before again coming to the same point. It just felt a bit insubstantial in comparison to some of the other companion quests.
I think that Isobel's companion story is unique because it isn't really her story. It's a couple's story. They were childhood sweethearts who needed to move on from one another, and figure out what they truly wanted in life because they grew into adulthood and wanted different things in life. Despite Isobel having the stronger feelings for Aurelia, she moved on easier because she had a real purpose in life. She wanted to be a traveling knight. Always had. It was her grander purpose, which meant moving on from staying in place with Aurelia.
Aurelia couldn't move on too until she found her own purpose, and when she was solving the mystery of Isobel's ring it wasn't really about Isobel, but about self discovery.
Aurelia's story doesn't conclude until she has gained purpose and meaning to her life, which turned out not to be romantic at all but rather a job for her to do that she enjoyed and was actually decent at it. That she found romance as well, with someone who happened to be a man, was just the cherry on top of her sundae.
Since it was a couple's story and not Isobel alone's story, I don't feel it would have been complete without Aurelia's part of the journey too.
That's my personal take on it.
I haven’t done many of the iconic quests but cases that stick out to me:
The wlw couple in the Vvardenfell main quest. I believe it was the first time I saw an lgbtq+ relationship in ESO and how it was just… a woman mentioned her wife offhandedly. That was amazing to see and I still think about it. I unfortunately don’t remember their names, though.
Alchemy, of course. I’ve had friends comment on how much her story means to them and it’s beautiful to see. A great example of why representation is important.
The Firepot delve I believe also has a wlw couple. Despite how much I may complain about this season, I liked seeing the care the two women had for each other.
Isobel I think is also a good case from this season. I haven’t finished all her quests but I think how she is written is a great way to show someone who is absolutely a lesbian, since you can’t assume based off relationships that both members involved are lesbian or gay. Being sure keeps people from stepping on each others toes in headcanons.
There’s also a mlm couple in Fargrave! One is the innkeeper and the other is in another room. The innkeeper gushes over his beloved, it’s adorable.
I can't say I agree here. Raz has been a very open character from the beginning, and introducing this so late into the game just seems like a throwaway. It would make sense that he has no preference either way, but developed an attraction to an individual through an interaction, but to develop an attraction to a specific type as a throwaway comment is not a good example of LBGT representation/writing, but this is subjective. If you truly believe this is good writing, I won't be able to change your mind- however I believe some LBGT authors might take my side on this one.
Yeah I agree. I know Raz as the kitty with raunchy remarks towards females for years and years. This feels like pinkwashing and we deserve better than that. Plus it feels like every bi char is made super mega flirty towards everyone. I get it, but I don't personally believe it's good representation.
This game does have some good, original stories though, especially the earlier writing.
I spoke with my friend in the LGBT community this morning about Raz, and his feedback was, and I'll quote,
"he had such bi vibes im shocked anyone is taken off guard".
I have to agree.
spartaxoxo wrote: »I liked the way they handled Aurelia and Isobel.
Isobel and Aurelia are very clearly childhood sweethearts. Isobel is depicted as a lesbian and Aurelia is bisexual. Isobel's quest revolves so much around Aurelia because she's letting her childhood crush go and they are both moving on to adulthood. Isobel and Aurelia may take different paths, but they will always love each other as friends.
I don't know how people think Isobel is just a good friend and not a lesbian. She gave her family's signet ring to Aurelia as a girl. She very clearly has a crush on Lyris. And she mentions that she "doesn't have the heart" to tell Jakarn that his flirting is a giant waste of time. She clearly finds him cute and is flattered by his flirting, but in the way people think flash mob proposals are cute. She has absolutely zero romantic attraction to him, a character known for being generally successful at pulling women and very handsome.
fall0athboy wrote: »I do hope they actually keep Isobel's sexuality if they ever actually do companion romances, as opposed to being "player-sexual".
fall0athboy wrote: »I do think that's the issue with writing a bisexual character:
Either you write them as flirty with everyone and play into the stereotype, thus getting flak.
Or you just offhanded write them as somehow just confirming them as bisexual. Which will also get flak for "you're not showing them as bisexual, you're just saying they are and hoping for brownie points"
I do hope my Isobel didn't punch him. She's not usually the punching sort, but he is such a … well. A ninny!
Isobel is so happy and excited to go off adventuring. I didn't think about her leaving me. Er, us.
ESO is still a fun game though. I don't pay attention to the quest so much or the characters' personal lifestyles. I just play the game for my own enjoyment.
And in Azandar's initial companion quest... he always refers to his (now deceased, as we find out during the quest) friend Martina as They, rather than She. Which seems to make Martina officially non-binary.
There does not appear to have been a relationship there, just a working partnership which broke up (because as Azandar says, "I'm an arse, Martina put up with me for five years and that was longer than anyone else" - refreshingly self-aware)... but it's the first time I can remember seeing a non-binary character in the game, even though they're dead before we meet them...
And in Azandar's initial companion quest... he always refers to his (now deceased, as we find out during the quest) friend Martina as They, rather than She. Which seems to make Martina officially non-binary.
There does not appear to have been a relationship there, just a working partnership which broke up (because as Azandar says, "I'm an arse, Martina put up with me for five years and that was longer than anyone else" - refreshingly self-aware)... but it's the first time I can remember seeing a non-binary character in the game, even though they're dead before we meet them...
fall0athboy wrote: »And in Azandar's initial companion quest... he always refers to his (now deceased, as we find out during the quest) friend Martina as They, rather than She. Which seems to make Martina officially non-binary.
There does not appear to have been a relationship there, just a working partnership which broke up (because as Azandar says, "I'm an arse, Martina put up with me for five years and that was longer than anyone else" - refreshingly self-aware)... but it's the first time I can remember seeing a non-binary character in the game, even though they're dead before we meet them...
I'm actually really annoyed they didn't have Vivec use they/them pronouns.
It suits the character.
fall0athboy wrote: »I'm actually really annoyed they didn't have Vivec use they/them pronouns.
It suits the character.
Something I'm kinda maybe picking up on with Scruut, the Watchling. Magister Meln referred to Scruut as "She", but the Voice Actor makes it iffy. I dunno, could be reading way too into it and it's just a Female Watchling with a rough voice...would Daedric Watchers even have Sexes?