Try POSITIVE reinforcement, rewarding what they do well and ignoring what they fail at.
I understand how leading pvp groups every day could push someone over the edge, I really do. And I've been in guilds where the GM or raid leader has gotten really openly pissed off, at the game, at the map, at our alliance or opponents. And light mockery and ribbing within the guilds are commonplace. But I've never been part of a guild where the leaders yell at, threaten, or generally bully their own members. I don't think that's tolerated in most guilds.
BUT, I do have the GMs of 2 prominent DC guilds on ignore because of their toxic behavior in zone, and I've heard from many people that they are even worse to their own members. I would bet good money the guild you're talking about is one of them.
Ego and Id are part and parcel of pvp, but ragey leaders are the minority. You should have no problem finding a guild that suits you better.
Also - ignoring things your team does poorly is not the mark of a good leader. People need to know what they're doing wrong, and be shown a path to improvement. That's how teams get better.
I’m guessing this was a pick up group and some people weren’t on crown or anywhere near crown.
Correct response would not be berating but simply removing people from the group who aren’t participating in the group, possibly blocking these people so they don’t end up in group again.
CatchMeTrolling wrote: »Was a guild leader like for the first few months and I was pretty chill , wouldn’t even know I was guild leader because I let someone else do most of the talking until actual combat. I feel like if you’re going to lead you can’t put yourself on a pedestal but somehow make the people that follow you feel equal but they still have your respect. It can be annoying if you’re taking on new players and they don’t know how to listen but at the end of the day how you respond is a test of your leadership.
I don’t care much about guilds, the last one I “actively” played in was a solo/small scale guild, sadly those types are like a myth. That’s the only type of guild I’d be interested to lead (especially with no aoe caps) but it’s so hard to find people who want to small scale now.
CatchMeTrolling wrote: »Was a guild leader like for the first few months and I was pretty chill , wouldn’t even know I was guild leader because I let someone else do most of the talking until actual combat. I feel like if you’re going to lead you can’t put yourself on a pedestal but somehow make the people that follow you feel equal but they still have your respect. It can be annoying if you’re taking on new players and they don’t know how to listen but at the end of the day how you respond is a test of your leadership.
I don’t care much about guilds, the last one I “actively” played in was a solo/small scale guild, sadly those types are like a myth. That’s the only type of guild I’d be interested to lead (especially with no aoe caps) but it’s so hard to find people who want to small scale now.
I’ve had a lot of luck finding good small scalers by talking to the better players of the BGs and bringing them out into cyrodil. The good players learn fast that the positional strategies are quite different when you’re fighting significantly larger numbers...
A small scale guild is hard though because you can’t, by definition, let it get large... it’s definitely not something you’d want to advertise.
Hmm well I am a guild leader and I’m quite conceited so I’ll give you that.
would be really nice but it's usually the opposite and it gets really toxic on discords & zone chat esp. in Vivec (PC NA). I'm pretty sure I know at least one of the people you're talking about, since we ran in the same guild for a while there. I also agree positive reinforcements are better than negative comments, borderline / actual? bullying, etc. I've been enjoying solo play & just casual zerg surfing in Cyrodiil because it's too much in guild raids sometimes. I did read the hate document / flyer you posted on discord, and then seeing this forum post now makes me wonder what happened, like were you directly messaging them or something? I think you can report if the name-calling / inappriopriate language was in game.a mature cyrodil with socially intelligent guild leaders