Wayrest Misogynists

likelolwhat · September 2015

It was console. XBone.

ETA: I'm on PC. Most of my characters are female. I think most people just assume any female character has a dude sitting behind the screen, so I haven't been harassed just running around.

However, if I happen to let slip in zchat that I'm female, there's a good chance (100% in 1st zone for sure, them Stonefalls peeps are nasty) I'll get some public rudeness or a creepy /whisper. I had one guy insist that it was impossible that a woman could possibly enjoy games. This was a few weeks ago. Since then I've had to be very careful to play "dudemode". It's hard, but I'd rather avoid the slobber.

So the short version is it does happen on PC, but apparently Many Men Online Role Playing as Girls is still an actual thing.

Arreyanne · September 2015

Its a video game, OMG you cant turn chat off?

likelolwhat · September 2015

Arreyanne wrote: »

Its a video game, OMG you cant turn chat off?

Yes! Let's just ignore the problem and let it spread to other organs!

purple-magicb16_ESO · September 2015

On PC in chat it's way easier. Screenshot and report. You can even scroll back like 10 minutes to screenshot and report. Altho some will chat back "reported". Don't know why. It just instigates further abuse from the player who was reported, so everyone has to continue to see that garbage for the next 10 or 12 chat entries.

I feel for you tho. Sometimes it does take you off guard and you can't believe that what your seeing/hearing is not a joke (altho last week someone was in Craglorn, farming presumably, and telling really racist jokes to no one in particular). Hard to believe that some people can be such jerks, so I'm not so quick to jump all over you about it.

Pallmor · September 2015

I love how everyone is piling on the poor guy who saw this, as if *he's* the one to blame just because he didn't report it.

How about we stick to blaming the people who were actually DOING this, not the poor guy who just happened to see it?

TheArchitects · September 2015

You CAN leave area chat. Pretty easy thing to do in my opinion. This is one thing you learn at some point when you play games on xbox and today you did. Its the same no matter what multiplayer game you play.

Either mute or leave area chat. Never understood why some people have to make such a big deal out of nothing.

NOTHING is more annoying than area chat on xbox. Welcome and enjoy :-)

likelolwhat · September 2015

purple-magicb16_ESO wrote: »

On PC in chat it's way easier. Screenshot and report. You can even scroll back like 10 minutes to screenshot and report. Altho some will chat back "reported". Don't know why. It just instigates further abuse from the player who was reported, so everyone has to continue to see that garbage for the next 10 or 12 chat entries.

I feel for you tho. Sometimes it does take you off guard and you can't believe that what your seeing/hearing is not a joke (altho last week someone was in Craglorn, farming presumably, and telling really racist jokes to no one in particular). Hard to believe that some people can be such jerks, so I'm not so quick to jump all over you about it.

It is a lot easier on PC from what I've heard. As long as the chat doesn't get too far (and even in busy /zone it takes, what - ten minutes at least for it to get cut off?) and you don't relog/reloadui it is there to be screenshot and reported. I don't say I've reported them, though I do ask them to stop. I don't say "I will report you if you don't stop" though. I'll ask them once if I'm feeling generous or iffy on whether they're just joking/not trying to be malicious, then report. If it's really bad, I report immediately.

Once I even whispered a couple people who were arguing with the rude person, to ask them to stop giving them fuel and thus extending the headache. They understood what I was saying and left the rude person to stew in his/her own misery.

I really like zonechat most of the time, so I leave it on. I can't imagine hearing it though!

Arreyanne · September 2015

likelolwhat wrote: »

Arreyanne wrote: »

Its a video game, OMG you cant turn chat off?

Yes! Let's just ignore the problem and let it spread to other organs!

Oh I forgot to wear my politically correct t shirt let me go change

theroyalestpythonnub18_ESO · September 2015

Arreyanne wrote: »

likelolwhat wrote: »

Arreyanne wrote: »

Its a video game, OMG you cant turn chat off?

Yes! Let's just ignore the problem and let it spread to other organs!

Oh I forgot to wear my politically correct t shirt let me go change

I too hate baseline standards of human decency.

UrQuan · September 2015

Corellon Thromorin wrote: »

mortemize wrote: »

Corellon Thromorin wrote: »

Oh, I really hate when people hurt my feelings on the internet.
I agree with you, evil people that have no consideration for the feelings of others must be tortured expelled from the internet.

Sarcasm? Serious?

Anyway, why does it always have to go there? 'This person is expressing their dislike of something, well then they must have "hurt feelings" or is an 'anti-'whatever. Seems to be a common idiom used to discount real issues...

They're not necessarily evil either, but their actions certainly do lend credence to the type of character that they possess.

The point is that instead of reporting the players, OP came here to create pointless drama to flood the forum with a useless thread about something that won't be changed because that's the way things are.
Should have reported and ignored them, that is what should be done. Period.

Wrong. Flat-out wrong. Should he have reported them? Yes. Should he have then proceeded to ignore it after reporting it? Absolutely not. Failure to discuss this type of behavior - and especially to discuss methods of dealing with and combating it - allows it to continue. If you're discouraging people from talking about it, you are part of the problem and you are contributing to the atmosphere that allows misogyny to thrive.

Ignoring the problem is not a solution.

anitajoneb17_ESO · September 2015

Thymos wrote: »

mortemize wrote: »

No, I didn't do sh*t. I'm no better than any of the others that didn't do sh*t.

Classic case of the pot calling the kettle black, then.

Not sure what you're doing here complaining about it.

@Thymos : I've seen and read a LOT on internet in general, on forums and on this forum. But THIS VERY comment, YOUR comment, is probably the worst I've ever read. Such an incredible mix of lack of understanding, will to crush & dominate, missing empathy and pseudo-formalistic morals (the worst).

@mortemize : your thoughts are in the right place. Next time you'll act. There's no point of being afraid of those people nor of "feeding them", they are such cowards that they usually back off very fast.

likelolwhat · September 2015

UrQuan wrote: »

Corellon Thromorin wrote: »

mortemize wrote: »

Corellon Thromorin wrote: »

Oh, I really hate when people hurt my feelings on the internet.
I agree with you, evil people that have no consideration for the feelings of others must be tortured expelled from the internet.

Sarcasm? Serious?

Anyway, why does it always have to go there? 'This person is expressing their dislike of something, well then they must have "hurt feelings" or is an 'anti-'whatever. Seems to be a common idiom used to discount real issues...

They're not necessarily evil either, but their actions certainly do lend credence to the type of character that they possess.

The point is that instead of reporting the players, OP came here to create pointless drama to flood the forum with a useless thread about something that won't be changed because that's the way things are.
Should have reported and ignored them, that is what should be done. Period.

Wrong. Flat-out wrong. Should he have reported them? Yes. Should he have then proceeded to ignore it after reporting it? Absolutely not. Failure to discuss this type of behavior - and especially to discuss methods of dealing with and combating it - allows it to continue. If you're discouraging people from talking about it, you are part of the problem and you are contributing to the atmosphere that allows misogyny to thrive.

Ignoring the problem is not a solution.

This.

(Y u alwys moar articulate then me???!!!)

(I kid.)

ZOS_Alex · September 2015

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