I no longer feel safe posting on the forums

wilykcat · November 2023

I am no longer a valid member of the ESO community. There is way too much bad stuff being posted and nothing is being done about it no matter how much request and reports I put in. I lost trust in the moderators and the community manager due to believing everything other players said. I have autism and anxiety which means I dont belong here. This is my final post.

LunaFlora · November 2023

none of that means you don't belong here.
anyone that plays elder scrolls online belongs here

KlauthWarthog · November 2023

Please look for professional mental healthcare to help with your difficulties. There is no shame in needing it.

Sheezabeast · November 2023

You can always utilize the ticket system to send in recommendations and ideas to Zos. Expecting the smattering of random moderators to always side with you and be at your beck and call is wildly narcissistic. Please chill out.

old_scopie1945 · November 2023

IMO you are still a valued member of the ESO community. I also thank you for your contribution.

Haenk · November 2023

The internet is not a friendly space (for the last 30 years), people turn into beasts as soon as they anonymously surf around and are protected by their pseudonyms.
However, one should simply ignore those people. Even if it is hard to do so. And: It's nothing personal, so best is to not take it personal.
On the other hand: You can't expect any mod or anyone else to act the way you like it. There are probably reasons why they ignore you - and thousands of other people. It's not that they are just ignoring *you*, they are ignoring everyone. Again, that's nothing personal...

wilykcat · November 2023

I'm sorry for this. I do have challenges that that make interactions difficult. Thanks for your support. Is there a way to close this thread?

Tandor · November 2023

old_scopie1945 wrote: »

IMO you are still a valued member of the ESO community. I also thank you for your contribution.

I agree with that, well said.

However, the forum is here for the community, not just for one member of it. If someone has personal health or other issues that make it difficult dealing with the community under normal forum rules and moderation then either that person uses the forum as a means of learning how to deal with such issues, or they struggle to do so in which case moving on (at least for a while) is a sensible course to follow - as game forums aren't something worth making your health worse over.

I wish you well.

colossalvoids · November 2023

wilykcat wrote: »

I'm sorry for this. I do have challenges that that make interactions difficult. Thanks for your support. Is there a way to close this thread?

Shoot a message to @ZOS_Kevin

Wolfkeks · November 2023

@ZOS_Icy is one of the most active mods -
OP requested to close the thread

@wilykcat I would suggest to take a break from the forums if it's degrading to your mental health. Sometimes the best we can do is to take a step back and breathe. Wishing you the best.

Elsonso · November 2023

Haenk wrote: »

The internet is not a friendly space (for the last 30 years), people turn into beasts as soon as they anonymously surf around and are protected by their pseudonyms.

I don't believe that people turn into 'beasts'. At least, not outside of occurrences of sociopaths and psychopaths that can pop up anywhere.

The issue is one of not seeing others as people. Because people cannot see the people they are talking to, they do not get feedback that they would get with more personal interactions. There is a disconnect. They do not see others as full people at first glance, and it takes longer to get to that level, if it is even ever an option.

It is not a matter of getting people to not act like "beasts" on the internet, it is a matter of realizing they aren't beasts at all.

Four_Fingers · November 2023

@wilykcat We will miss you as a fellow gamer.

YetAnotherLinuxUser · November 2023

assomeone who struggles with anxiety, depression, and ptsd (which is also an anxiety d/o) i hear you. best of luck to you.

YetAnotherLinuxUser · November 2023

it's sad. there are def bullies on the forums at times it seems. the worst of them do weaponize the mods. online forums def seem sketchy a lot of the time. it's a shame.

FantasticFreddie · November 2023

See, this is why I cannot take you seriously.

You "don't feel safe" posting on the.forums? That's why you made an entire post about it huh?

Clearly you DO feel safe. This post is just like all of your "I don't like this discussion so I'm leaving and not coming back!" comments that you toss out frequently. You aren't scared, and you aren't leaving. You want attention, and playing the victim is an effective way to get it.

I understand you would like attention and sympathy, but a video game discussion forum is not an appropriate place for that.

Suddwrath · November 2023

Getting off these forums will be the best thing for you at this moment. I saw your previous post about being banned from other MMO forums, so at this point the best course of action will be seeking professional therapy until you've reached a place where you can return to forums in a healthy manner so that it doesn't affect you like this.

Wish you well.

Warhawke_80 · November 2023

I'm usually the last guy who is a cheerleader for the corporation...but I think the Mods have a hard job...some folks want to be able to say anything to anyone and some folks want a very rigid high punishment Atmosphere like on the FFXIV forums.

I think there needs to be a balance

But I also feel sometimes favorites are played...it seems that certain people can say pretty much whatever they want and it won't get modded...that needs to end

Rumtintin · November 2023

I hope you stay. I too have some of the same challenges.

boi_anachronism_ · November 2023

I seem to remember a similar post here not to long ago? I cant honestly remember if it was by you or not. I do empathize but i also believe you bare some responsibility in sustaining your mental health. Forums, in any context are usually not a great place for those without a thick skin. Even if someone may not be outright insulting, curse you out, or anything technically against community guidelines it can still be difficult.

Its best to step away if you are overwhelmed but those things. Best of luck.

xilfxlegion · November 2023

boi_anachronism_ wrote: »

I seem to remember a similar post here not to long ago? I cant honestly remember if it was by you or not. I do empathize but i also believe you bare some responsibility in sustaining your mental health. Forums, in any context are usually not a great place for those without a thick skin. Even if someone may not be outright insulting, curse you out, or anything technically against community guidelines it can still be difficult.

Its best to step away if you are overwhelmed but those things. Best of luck.

https://forums.elderscrollsonline.com/en/discussion/645031/im-not-sure-what-to-do-resolved-please-close/p1

you do indeed recall correctly

valenwood_vegan · November 2023

OP, you are certainly a valid member of the ESO community, but it's important to remember that these forums are for the entire community and do not exist only to cater to the wishes of one member of it.

As I've suggested before, if the forums were stressing me out and upsetting me significantly, I would look at taking a break from participating so actively in them, do something else that I enjoy, and think long and hard about what exactly I'm hoping to get by being active on the ESO forums. I think the reason most people are here is that they play and enjoy ESO and want to provide feedback and share / learn information about the game.

If one is seeking something else by being active here (such as attention, sympathy, support, etc.), it is worth taking the time to consider that an internet gaming forum may not be the best option for finding whatever else they are looking for and that there are other avenues of finding help with things going on outside of the world of ESO.

It is also worth slowing down and taking the time to think about what one is posting before doing so. It becomes increasingly difficult to take a poster seriously when they frequently make large numbers of similar posts; edit them to the point that they say something completely different than they originally said; and constantly request that they be closed or locked. I type out what I want to say, and read over it several times, thinking long and hard about whether I *should* hit that post button.

Anyway, I do wish OP the best and encourage them to continue contributing here, but to also look into whether there might be additional options for getting help with issues that may not relate to ESO.

[EDIT for typo].

gariondavey · November 2023

FantasticFreddie wrote: »

See, this is why I cannot take you seriously.

You "don't feel safe" posting on the.forums? That's why you made an entire post about it huh?

Clearly you DO feel safe. This post is just like all of your "I don't like this discussion so I'm leaving and not coming back!" comments that you toss out frequently. You aren't scared, and you aren't leaving. You want attention, and playing the victim is an effective way to get it.

I understand you would like attention and sympathy, but a video game discussion forum is not an appropriate place for that.

This

Suddwrath wrote: »

Getting off these forums will be the best thing for you at this moment. I saw your previous post about being banned from other MMO forums, so at this point the best course of action will be seeking professional therapy until you've reached a place where you can return to forums in a healthy manner so that it doesn't affect you like this.

Wish you well.

And this

ZOS_Kevin · November 2023

Closing the thread on player request.