''Help'' with my OCD on ESO

Jord_Joe · January 2021

I would like some advice on my OCD on ESO problem, for years I have been trying to create a character and manage to do everything '' right '' since creation, up to level 50, but it is difficult because things happen that make my mind create absurd stories (many based on the lore of the game or the situations within it), and it has gotten worse, nowadays I create a character and if any random player on the map “attacks” me with a light attack or the animation of any other character's attack hits my character before i start main quest to my character became a soul shriven, it is enough to make me want to restart from 0 another character ... in character creation, I cannot have any bad or negative perception ... which is very difficult for someone with OCD, the exclusion limit is something else , sometimes i have to wait until the next day to try again, i play for 4 years practically, and i really regret having excluded my first character a sorcerer, i was at maximum, and i had no OCD problem, and today i live trying to make peace with a character, I could ignore any trigger, or situation in the game that causes me dysfunctional thoughts and the desire to redo everything again, but I'm afraid of that too, because I constantly remember and the anguish and agony are plaguing me, if anyone has advice, for please give me ... i no have friends to say ''its ok nobody is perfect, u can make this or thad...you can try this, or think that way'' if u have any words for me, have my thanks.

stewhead2ub17_ESO · January 2021

I'm sorry to see you are experiencing this problem. If I understand you correctly you indicate this is behavior that has just started about 4 years ago? I would suggest talking to a professional about your OCD behavior since I would think the ESO component is just a symptom of the bigger issue. I don't think it's as simple as people telling you to "just don't do it" or "don't feel that compulsion". I understand OCD goes beyond trying to think logically but perhaps just try reminding yourself it's only a game, you can have many characters, & nothing bad will happen if any of your in game fears are realized. Good luck!

Aliyavana · January 2021

Jord_Joe wrote: »

I would like some advice on my OCD on ESO problem, for years I have been trying to create a character and manage to do everything '' right '' since creation, up to level 50, but it is difficult because things happen that make my mind create absurd stories (many based on the lore of the game or the situations within it), and it has gotten worse, nowadays I create a character and if any random player on the map “attacks” me with a light attack or the animation of any other character's attack hits my character before i start main quest to my character became a soul shriven, it is enough to make me want to restart from 0 another character ... in character creation, I cannot have any bad or negative perception ... which is very difficult for someone with OCD, the exclusion limit is something else , sometimes i have to wait until the next day to try again, i play for 4 years practically, and i really regret having excluded my first character a sorcerer, i was at maximum, and i had no OCD problem, and today i live trying to make peace with a character, I could ignore any trigger, or situation in the game that causes me dysfunctional thoughts and the desire to redo everything again, but I'm afraid of that too, because I constantly remember and the anguish and agony are plaguing me, if anyone has advice, for please give me ... i no have friends to say ''its ok nobody is perfect, u can make this or thad...you can try this, or think that way'' if u have any words for me, have my thanks.

You can try circumventing this in-game. Get a chapter, skip the tutorial, go to auridon , stonefalls, or glenumbra AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, and start the main quest when you get there. Then its unlikely that a player would light attack you, plus it makes sense to start the main quest at the start of your playthrough chronologically speaking.

Try to prevent this from spilling over to observable IRL behavior, because people are *** and will sadly judge you for it, and can reduce you into a caricature of yourself. A quote from Joker, a movie of all things is accurate "The worst part of having a mental illness is that people expect you to behave as if you don't."

Ultimately, you might want to visit a therapist to help you sort this issue.

TheImperfect · January 2021

All you can do is do your best and it seems like you are expecting perfection with things beyond your control. Things that happen within the game don't have anything to do with how well you do something. Sometimes there's something beautiful about things happening randomly and then working with that.
There's these bowls that when broken are glued back together with gold and look more beautiful than when they started. Life's like that.
I like to imagine whatever happens to my characters is like real life, could be anything and you have to deal with it but it enriches their stories and can go into the roleplay of their head story.
I do think if you feel counselling would help to go for it as it seems like even something that should be fun is being turned into a repetitive chore.

Jord_Joe · January 2021

Sorry for the countless mistakes, I used the google translator, my english is horrible ...

Scardan · January 2021

Maybe you should talk to your therapist (I think you are in therapy because you know your diagnosis and therapy is what comes next) and take a break from playing because it is a source of intense stress for you, unhealthy stress.

RedMuse · January 2021

I'll be honest with you, this is way above this forum's pay grade. Idk if anyone here is a licensed therapist but even if they are this forum is not the place for it. You need professional help of your OCD is this bad. Contact a therapist.

Lintashi · January 2021

You should see professional therapy about this. My small advice, is to start playing in off hours, like early in the morning, or late in the evening. There are less people around, and generally, it makes a better game experience, almost like one player game. Maybe if you start playing with no people around, gradually moving to more populated timeframes and places, it will be easier?

mfcostacampos · January 2021

I can relate buddy - I started playing ESO over a year ago and even just this morning I deleted my character and created a new one again.
I keep restarting the game and have spent almost 500 hours on it - most of which were spent on the tutorial.
My OCD is a bit different to yours - it has to do with dialogue interruptions and stuff like that. Or with graphical glitches. I have this thing where I have to do the tutorial and Soul Shriven in Coldharbour quest "perfectly". The Greymoor tutorial is awful for this because the Harrowstorm graphical effect doesn't always load when you step outside, so when that happens I restart the game (and you go outside twice, so there's 2 chances of this going wrong)...

I started doing something that helps a bit - I record my gameplay now. Basically, before in my head I'd convince myself something went wrong, because I wasn't paying enough attention so couldn't remember that it actually went right. So now I can look back on the video and that gives me the reassurance that I did everything right and I find myself having to restart less times.

SammyKhajit · January 2021

Please seek professional help and good luck - suspect the moderator will shut this thread but as per other’s suggestions, perhaps stop play ESO or reduce the play hours. Solo games might also be a better option.

All the best and hope the OCD will be managed.

Jord_Joe · January 2021

Thank you all, I feel better, and seeing your opinions I managed to clear my mind a little more, now I will fight it peacefully, I promise not to exclude my character anymore, if these distortions come to mind, I am sure that I have the power to bring order especially to things of game, because I make my character's story the same way I do it for me in real life, seeing each opinion several lights opened in my mind, and now I feel strong enough to face and re-educate my mind, showing the truth, the truth that no matter what happens will still be my character, because it will still be me giving him life in this virtual world, as they said, in the game there are things that you must deal with, like on real life, and not always anything will be perfect as we imagine, things are already perfect with their flaws or imperfections, just as each person is in their own way, and i’m going to remember, it’s just a game, this is to have fun alone or with other people, pve, pvp, rp, thanks to everyone, and everyone who has a certain degree of OCD and shared their experiences, thanks so much, helped me alot really S2

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Psiion · January 2021

Greetings all,

At the request of the original poster, this thread has been closed.

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