Help me...please :(

gamerguy757
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I'm sorry, this isn't about ESO. But I have no where else to turn.
Look, I've posted here many times, for help with the game, so I know the gaming community can be helpful. I have horrible depression, I've attempted suicide once before my roommate stopped me. I hate feeling this way. It sickens me. I have barely any friends and they never talk to me so I can't go to them for help; they're too busy with their Gfs. Normally I can just handle being alone, but sometimes it's harder and would feel better talking to someone.
I'm stuck in a horrible job that pays awful, I worked hard for a degree that no one seems to care about, I go home sad every night knowing that seriously im doing nothing with my life no matter how hard I try
My friends are no help either. I ask them to maybe set me up with someone but their response is always the same "no one will like you."
Look I don't know what to do. Please help. Just talk to me, make me laugh, cheer me up because right now, I could use something.
  • Daemons_Bane
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    Call a hotline pal.. It's not that people here don't care, but it sounds like you might need a professional person's help atm :/
  • Abeille
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    Okay okay, I'll tell you a joke.

    What happened to the last Dwemer?

    Rrkindaleft!

    Get it? "He kinda left"? Huh? Huh?

    ...Okay I'll leave.
    Edited by Abeille on September 25, 2016 7:27PM
    Just so that everyone knows, my Altmer still can't have black hair. About a dozen of Altmer NPCs in the game have black hair. Just saying.

    Meet my characters:
    Command: Do the thing.

    Zadarri, Khajiit Fist of Thalmor: The thing was done, as commanded.
    Durza gra-Maghul, Orc blacksmith: The thing was done perfectly, in the most efficient way.
    Tegwen, Bosmer troublemaker: You can't prove I didn't do the thing.
    Sings-Many-Songs, Argonian fisher: Sure, I'll do the thing... Eventually. Maybe.
    Aerindel, Altmer stormcaller: After extensive research, I've come to the conclusion that doing the thing would be a waste of resources.
    Liliel, Dunmer pyromancer: Aerindel said I shouldn't do the thing. Something about "resources".
    Gyda Snowcaller, Nord cryomancer: I will find a way to do it that won't waste resources and make Aerindel proud of me.
    Beatrice Leoriane, Breton vampire: I persuaded someone else into doing the thing. You are welcome, dear.
    Sahima, Redguard performer: Doing the thing sounds awfully unpleasant and really not my problem.
    Ellaria Valerius, Imperial priestess: I'll pray to the Eight for the thing to be done, if it is Their will.
  • WatchTiger
    Go to your doctor and get him to get you somebody who can really help you I hope you get through it
  • gamerguy757
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    I've been to a doctor. I've went through counseling. It never really helped.
  • mobicera
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    Look into CBT or DBT.
    This is coming for someone who has battled serious depression amongst other mental illnesses for most of my life, either have to potential to be extremely beneficial if you put in serious effort.
  • Alucardo
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    Abeille wrote: »
    Okay okay, I'll tell you a joke.

    What happened to the last Dwemer?

    Rrkindaleft!

    Get it? "He kinda left"? Huh? Huh?

    ...Okay I'll leave.

    No don't leave. That was actually pretty funny. ENCORE!
  • BomblePants
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    Hey, hang on in there buddy - I promise that you won't always feel this way.... just take it hour by hour if that's all you got xxx
  • MasterPerceval
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    Your true saviour is you and you alone, no external source is ultimately going to change what you want to change about yourself, not doctors, not friends, not your family. You and you alone have the strength to pull yourself together, that is the biggest realisation one can have. One that saved me in the darkest times.

    Trust in yourself, stop overthinking life, just let it slip away.
    Edited by MasterPerceval on September 25, 2016 7:35PM
    PC EU

    Estelle van Heeckeren - DC Redguard Stamina Sorcerer
    Nikita Nightclaws - AD Khajiit Stamina Nightblade
    Amarië Tar-Míriel - AD High-Elf Magicka Templar
    Cimmerian Mortis - AD Dunmer Magicka Dragon Knight
    Maud van Heeckeren - AD Redguard Stamina Sorcerer
    blåckstår - AD Nord Stamina Dragon Knight
    Salva Mae - AD Khajiit Stamina Warden
  • Daemons_Bane
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    Now I hate to be the one to say this, I really do.. But it's not fair, if you are indeed serious, to lay this on people you don't know.. It can be a terrible burden to be in this situation, for both you and the others involved.. Seek professional help, asap.. Seeing someone on a regular basis is the best way forward
  • Nirnrotten
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    I would put all points into Health and make sure to wear 5/1/1 for the Undaunted Passive a d you'll be fine. We are undaunted remember?! Hahaha maybe stack some regen man. You'll be back to full resources in no time. Just keep grinding and growing stronger. Don't wipe!
  • Ch4mpTW
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    Eh...? Hm... How should I say this... Try to get enlightened, and try to realize who and what you really are. Meaning, pause and try to figure out why it is at its very core that causes your depression by identifying yourself. If you start to get philosophical, then it's completely way over your head. Basically meaning that you've missed the point exactly. If you do manage to have enough success thinking about this, you'll eventually say that you are you. And that you are *whatever your name is.*.

    However, that isn't the answer you're looking for either. But rather when you're on the right track. As it's a voice in your head that says, "I'm ___. I'm me." Once you've gotten 'the voice' fully identified and singled out, ask yourself who that voice really belongs to. Who you really belong to, and why it is you're able to hear your own voice in your head. Or rather what you believe to be your own thoughts.

    From there, you're pretty much in for quite a bit of a surprise. And no, this is no psychological mumbo-jumbo. Nor is it anything to get philosophical on either. It's about self-identification in the form of enlightenment via self-awareness. Oh and as a warning, it can be both a negative and positive experience. For some, it's quite scary and traumatic digging into their sub-conscious mind. This is due to the mind being a lot more than what we believe it to be. And always remember, the mind is not the brain. They're different. Good luck, feel better, and have fun. :)
  • RoyalPink06
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    I normally wouldn't write a response to this kind of post for fear of making things worse, but I felt compelled to just say this: you are not alone.

    Myself, I have really bad social anxiety, so as you can imagine, playing a social game is sometimes very scary for me. But the few times that I have gotten into a conversation with someone about it, I quickly found out that surprisingly a ton of people who play this game also suffer from some form of depression or anxiety, even a few with schizophrenia. They have been very open and supportive about it, if you just reach out. Sometimes just knowing that you aren't alone in the struggle is enough to get you through.

    It really does sound like you need professional help, though, dude, or someone close to you who you can talk to. I really hope you find what you need. :heart:
    NA PS4
  • Alucardo
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    After threatening to run my old therapist over I was put onto a new one. He uses a different approach to others - it's a proactive one. See if you can find someone like that. Sure, I still have problems, but they aren't as bad as they once were. The proactive therapists will actually talk to you, ask you what you want out of life and help you reach the goal (with moral and emotional support, not money. I tried). I found the normal ones that just sit there, pretend to listen and ask cliche questions were no help at all.
    This guy has actually got me on my feet and enjoying stuff again. Every fortnight I take the motorcycle out for the entire weekend, staying at B+Bs or just camping under the stars, visit castles and historical sites around England during the day. I didn't even realise I wanted to do that until speaking to this therapist. Basically, you want to spend less time sitting in front of the computer playing MMOs, because that will only make things worse for you.
  • MasterPerceval
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    Ch4mpTW wrote: »
    Eh...? Hm... How should I say this... Try to get enlightened, and try to realize who and what you really are. Meaning, pause and try to figure out why it is at its very core that causes your depression by identifying yourself. If you start to get philosophical, then it's completely way over your head. Basically meaning that you've missed the point exactly. If you do manage to have enough success thinking about this, you'll eventually say that you are you. And that you are *whatever your name is.*.

    However, that isn't the answer you're looking for either. But rather when you're on the right track. As it's a voice in your head that says, "I'm ___. I'm me." Once you've gotten 'the voice' fully identified and singled out, ask yourself who that voice really belongs to. Who you really belong to, and why it is you're able to hear your own voice in your head. Or rather what you believe to be your own thoughts.

    From there, you're pretty much in for quite a bit of a surprise. And no, this is no psychological mumbo-jumbo. Nor is it anything to get philosophical on either. It's about self-identification in the form of enlightenment via self-awareness. Oh and as a warning, it can be both a negative and positive experience. For some, it's quite scary and traumatic digging into their sub-conscious mind. This is due to the mind being a lot more than what we believe it to be. And always remember, the mind is not the brain. They're different. Good luck, feel better, and have fun. :)

    Wow I love this. Must be great to have a late night conversation with you @Ch4mpTW.

    Edited by MasterPerceval on September 25, 2016 7:53PM
    PC EU

    Estelle van Heeckeren - DC Redguard Stamina Sorcerer
    Nikita Nightclaws - AD Khajiit Stamina Nightblade
    Amarië Tar-Míriel - AD High-Elf Magicka Templar
    Cimmerian Mortis - AD Dunmer Magicka Dragon Knight
    Maud van Heeckeren - AD Redguard Stamina Sorcerer
    blåckstår - AD Nord Stamina Dragon Knight
    Salva Mae - AD Khajiit Stamina Warden
  • gamerguy757
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    I wasn't trying give a burden. Sorry if I came off that way, but I just need someone to talk to, since like I said, my friends don't talk to me at all
  • FLuFFyxMuFFiN
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    Sounds like you need some new friends if they are gonna put you down like that. But you should find some professional help and just work on yourself and you will get better. Idk you but I am positive you can find someone who makes you feel better and helps you. I used to be like you not knowing what to do with my life or feeling like I had nothing and no girls would like me but then I met my fiance and my life has improved because of it. I sincerely hope things get better for you.

    Also if you need friends on ESO don't hesitate to add me :) my username is the same as my forum name.
    Edited by FLuFFyxMuFFiN on September 25, 2016 8:08PM
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