Cyber bulling, hate speech, toxicity, ignorance, off topics - ENOUGH!

nordmarian · May 19

To be honest with you, you already showed me more than enough how hateful and ignorant and toxic some of you can be towards people whom you didn't even encountered once irl and not even in vr. Its really sad. You think that you won but truth is you all lost.

You know nothing about how much time I spend in late night training raids that often started at 23pm and ended up at 8am.
You know nothing about how many times I gave away my time, my loot, my resources for free and I prioritized others long before me. Even IRL. I used to help people with a day long work for as much as a cup of coffee. That's what you get from being too nice with the wrong people.
You know nothing about how many times I helped random people with dungeons and raids for free. All this despite the fact I already had that achievement or all the loot I ever needed.
But yes I grew tired for being in such negative and toxic environment and instead of stepping away? I fought back. My mistake. I fought for what I through it was right and I fought for what used to made me happy once. And still am.
Yes I have defects we are people, I tried to admit them at least. But I do have qualities too which not many got to see. I'm dedicated, I'm loyal, I'm a fighter...
And yes you became jealous on me because I was simply ahead of you, I was better than you and nicer than you. So you marginalized me. So little by little you started to turn me into someone who I never wanted to be not even in my nightmares. You think I never wanted to be a normal person? To be healthy? To be wealthy? To have a good family? Friends? A job? A life? ...But to be honest even when you are a bit negativist and pessimist and a bad persona you aren't entirely wrong. You still help in one way and another. And I only hope all that wasn't in vain.
You showed me that not even once in your life time you can't stay on topic with some of the topics I posted lately. You can never apology or accept apologies. And you always go on a witch hunt and bad mouth people.
You also showed me you can't appreciate the hard work some artists had to put by creating content or by trying to improve a game they like with suggestions and wishes.
You showed me how hateful you can be and instead of even being nice and try to talk to me or wish me good luck, or a happy birthday, or surprise me, or try to help me, you started with hate speech and worse.
You showed me how hateful can be no matter what, by posting hate comments and more dislikes than likes towards a memorial video. A video I made towards someone whom got sick with this cursed virus and I never got to hear from her ever since. You don't even imagine how hard this must be for me but you all judge.
You know nothing about what I'm going through my struggles etc and instead of helping out, you only made it worse and worse by pushing me to the limits. By forcing me OUT from people I love, from things I love, from the game I loved.
I must have met thousands, and shared my stories with hundreds and out of everyone I doubt I could find a handful of people whom ever tried to distance me from this or help me move on. And when I did you made fun of me.
And then you show me how I am all wrong and point out towards some mistakes I admitted I did wrong?
I hope you are all proud with what you've done!

Zer0_CooL · May 19

idk · May 19

If someone is truly harassing you, or in some way violating the Code of Conduct without provocation then report them in-game. That link provides instructions for reporting them as well as a link to the Code of Conduct. It also includes instructions for how to add someone to your ignore list and be done with them.

OlumoGarbag · May 19

There are always people on the forums, that can't restrain themselves from pushing their agenda. Mostly one side player's that only main one thing and think every other aspect and player is wrong. Those will always be toxic and it's quite literally impossible to discuss with them since their point of view is already fixed.

Sometimes it's just endlessly annoying. If that happens I recommend you just go offline mode in game and don't use the forums. Especially lately forums have been full completely useless replys (I hope you'll find this one less useless)

Kebabkruncher · May 19

WOW!! .... but you are right. I use other forums for research and help, and there are some great people out there. This is one of the most toxic I've ever come across, and it is getting worse. I've been playing this game since beta and love it. As you can see from the 'soul shriven' label I don't post much.

No wonder the world is f&^%d up. Take a break, chill. Discover that nice feeling of constructive help. Or go find something you may like. NOBODY forced you to play this game, and seriously, you can leave whenever you want to. Try it

Kurat · May 19

To OP. Dude, please dont take this the wrong way, but you should really try to stay calm and maybe seek help from medical professional. I'm sincerely suggesting not trolling or anything.

Rake · May 19

I might be wrong but easiest thing one could do is ignore ppl that try to get attention from you in a way that you find disturbing and carry on, not wasting energy or resources on them.

Dusk_Coven · May 19

Rake wrote: »

I might be wrong but easiest thing one could do is ignore ppl that try to get attention from you in a way that you find disturbing and carry on, not wasting energy or resources on them.

only 12 ignore slots on forum though.

nordmarian · May 19

Ik but when people deny you in their raid teams and split you from your own friends then how can you react against that?

Rake · May 19

find another raid team and ask friends to follow

Hurbster · May 19

With respect, but isn't this the OP's third goodbye thread now ?

xXMeowMeowXx · May 19

Please be sure to reach out to your family now more then ever.

Also, don’t be afraid to seek help dealing with the loss of your friend....

Very sorry for your loss and that you’re going through a rough time.

>Hugs<

mairwen85 · May 19

I appreciate and understand the sentiment, but given all the previous recent threads by OP, this is a highly personal issue that is bleeding into a public forum. It's going to end up more harm than good if it continues, and the very thing OP says they want to see an end of, they will create against their-self.

Kadoin · May 19

How can we summon a lock? Obvious this is either bait for someone , or someone will bait the OP...

D3N7157 · May 19

Ok where are the mods can we get this closed down as his other 4 threads?

nordmarian · May 19

hate speech again

MarzAttakz · May 19

nordmarian wrote: »

Ik but when people deny you in their raid teams and split you from your own friends then how can you react against that?

My friend, from the various posts you've made over the last few days you seem to be going through trauma both old and new, this isn't about a game, this about humanity.

The long and the short of it is this: you're only human, as am I, as are all those involved. You're only accountable for one thing: your own behavior, as am I, as are they. To answer what you've stated above: there must be a reason why THEY have chosen to act this way.

What can you do about it?

Learn to forgive yourself before you can forgive others, learn to love and value yourself before you can love and value others. And if you reach a point in a relationship, be it personal, romantic, professional or otherwise, at which you realise it is no longer good or healthy for you, turn around, walk away and don't look back.

You've tried to do this once before (changing servers) but failed, try again but this time change within yourself.

This book is worth reading

LuxLunae · May 19

OP how old are you?

You hare obviously over 16 but definitely below 26.

Hmm this is hard. You are talking about how you put time into the game to get where you are and how people are jealous.

My experience on the internet phases tells me you are definitely closer to the 16 range than the 26 range....

I am going to put you around 20 for now. Let me continue to read your words.

You used run on sentences...so I'd say you were still in high school...but this is the internet so....

You were born with the new internet paradigm...so you can't be my age....

so I can confidently say 16 to 22.

You have time to play the game... hmmm...although...coronavirus has made everybody stay home ....but if that wasnt the case i'd definitely say you were still in HS...

I'd go with 17 if the corona didn't skew the resutls...You are defnitely still in HS.

I need more data so I'll safely go with 20.

Speaking with people on the internet gave me this ability.

If I can do this, I know you can't wait for ai to know everything about you.

nordmarian · May 19

It all started because elitism, toxicity and greed. I ended up too early in end game scene and often I used to carry a lot of players for free which some end game players did not agree because they were losing a lot of money. Things degenerated as some of those players were in most of those teams I used to raid back in the days. I complained and things got out of my hand.
I often pointed out but no one tried to do a thing.
One more thing that really affected me is this custom titles add-on which I often filed to be taken offline by ZOS and they ignored this situation. The sole purpose some people used this is to bait people, harass, deceive and promote elitism. Same elitism that caused me some drama with my friend which led her to leave eso in the first place.

nordmarian · May 19

I'm 36 years old of stupidity living my whole life in a chair thanks to an accident. But thanks.

mairwen85 · May 19

nordmarian wrote: »

It all started because elitism, toxicity and greed. I ended up too early in end game scene and often I used to carry a lot of players for free which some end game players did not agree because they were losing a lot of money. Things degenerated as some of those players were in most of those teams I used to raid back in the days. I complained and things got out of my hand.
I often pointed out but no one tried to do a thing.
One more thing that really affected me is this custom titles add-on which I often filed to be taken offline by ZOS and they ignored this situation. The sole purpose some people used this is to bait people, harass, deceive and promote elitism. Same elitism that caused me some drama with my friend which led her to leave eso in the first place.

Speaking frankly, I think it's time to relinquish the martyrdom and victim mentality. Take a break, a few weeks away, take some time to reconnect with yourself and the world in general. Just stop the near obsessive and repetitive posting of the same stuff accompanied with the melodramatics, you're not helping yourself, and certainly not others this way.

idk · May 19

nordmarian wrote: »

Ik but when people deny you in their raid teams and split you from your own friends then how can you react against that?

Form your own raid team?

Seriously. If you did not make the cut for the raid team for legitimate performance reasons then try forming your own raid group. I expect your friends will gladly raid with you.

Also, if this is because you did not make the cut for a raid team for any reason, airing the dirty laundry in the forums is not exactly going to help.

Aznox · May 19

Dusk_Coven wrote: »

Rake wrote: »

I might be wrong but easiest thing one could do is ignore ppl that try to get attention from you in a way that you find disturbing and carry on, not wasting energy or resources on them.

only 12 ignore slots on forum though.

This is a real problem.

As is the fact that ignores do not hide threads.

nordmarian · May 19

If I would been that good to be able to form and lead a raid into battle I wouldn't be here. And if I would actually had loyal friends whom wouldn't let me behind for better teams scores and such or fight for me again I wouldn't be here. And if some meaningful and toxic people wouldn't keep talking me bad everywhere and towards everyone. Just because someone doesn't like you doesn't mean others shouldn't as well. Think i covered enough in my other posts.

LuxLunae · May 19

mairwen85 wrote: »

nordmarian wrote: »

It all started because elitism, toxicity and greed. I ended up too early in end game scene and often I used to carry a lot of players for free which some end game players did not agree because they were losing a lot of money. Things degenerated as some of those players were in most of those teams I used to raid back in the days. I complained and things got out of my hand.
I often pointed out but no one tried to do a thing.
One more thing that really affected me is this custom titles add-on which I often filed to be taken offline by ZOS and they ignored this situation. The sole purpose some people used this is to bait people, harass, deceive and promote elitism. Same elitism that caused me some drama with my friend which led her to leave eso in the first place.

Speaking frankly, I think it's time to relinquish the martyrdom and victim mentality. Take a break, a few weeks away, take some time to reconnect with yourself and the world in general. Just stop the near obsessive and repetitive posting of the same stuff accompanied with the melodramatics, you're not helping yourself, and certainly not others this way.

I did this I took a break from the internet for 2 months only using it to look at my emails and slack. I found i had more time to be productive. I was doing things I didn't know I could. Now I have a good rhythm.

Wake up at 4 am
4-5 am exersize ( should be 30 mins but I gotta take breaks some times lol)
5-7 am (play, watch news, eat, etc.)
7- 9am (plan the day out, do some stuff from the last day)
9am-5 pm ( Dedicated work, 1 hr lunch break, two 15 hr breaks)
5-6 pm ( close out the dedicated work)
6-10 pm (PLLAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY)

Weekends (PLLLLLLLAAAAAAYYYYYY... unlesss I want to work on my dedicated work...building software... the weekdays i learn and build the software lol...at some point it just becomes another brain game and it feels so good solving the problems I can do it forever...but like FRICTION, you gotta put a lot more energy in to get the ball rolling from rest...)

thatESOdude · May 19

Your YouTube vids about "best friends forever" are kinda stalky

AgaTheGreat · May 19

Burtan · May 19

Get help.

thatESOdude · May 19

Ps. Custom titles addon is best addon in ESO and also my custom title is the best too.

andreasv · May 19

LuxLunae wrote: »

mairwen85 wrote: »

nordmarian wrote: »

It all started because elitism, toxicity and greed. I ended up too early in end game scene and often I used to carry a lot of players for free which some end game players did not agree because they were losing a lot of money. Things degenerated as some of those players were in most of those teams I used to raid back in the days. I complained and things got out of my hand.
I often pointed out but no one tried to do a thing.
One more thing that really affected me is this custom titles add-on which I often filed to be taken offline by ZOS and they ignored this situation. The sole purpose some people used this is to bait people, harass, deceive and promote elitism. Same elitism that caused me some drama with my friend which led her to leave eso in the first place.

Speaking frankly, I think it's time to relinquish the martyrdom and victim mentality. Take a break, a few weeks away, take some time to reconnect with yourself and the world in general. Just stop the near obsessive and repetitive posting of the same stuff accompanied with the melodramatics, you're not helping yourself, and certainly not others this way.

I did this I took a break from the internet for 2 months only using it to look at my emails and slack. I found i had more time to be productive. I was doing things I didn't know I could. Now I have a good rhythm.

Wake up at 4 am
4-5 am exersize ( should be 30 mins but I gotta take breaks some times lol)
5-7 am (play, watch news, eat, etc.)
7- 9am (plan the day out, do some stuff from the last day)
9am-5 pm ( Dedicated work, 1 hr lunch break, two 15 hr breaks)
5-6 pm ( close out the dedicated work)
6-10 pm (PLLAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY)

Weekends (PLLLLLLLAAAAAAYYYYYY... unlesss I want to work on my dedicated work...building software... the weekdays i learn and build the software lol...at some point it just becomes another brain game and it feels so good solving the problems I can do it forever...but like FRICTION, you gotta put a lot more energy in to get the ball rolling from rest...)

How did you manage to squeeze in 30 hours break time into a 24 hour day? What planet are you on / from - be honest!

mairwen85 · May 19

nordmarian wrote: »

If I would been that good to be able to form and lead a raid into battle I wouldn't be here. And if I would actually had loyal friends whom wouldn't let me behind for better teams scores and such or fight for me again I wouldn't be here. And if some meaningful and toxic people wouldn't keep talking me bad everywhere and towards everyone. Just because someone doesn't like you doesn't mean others shouldn't as well. Think i covered enough in my other posts.

You have indeed, ad nauseam. The sympathy will quickly dry up and turn sour. Just some advice from an old lady to take or leave as I posted earlier. There are other, healthier outlets, and better places to be than here.