The problem really stems from your expectations. Youre expectations are too high. Have you just recently started playing The Elder Scrolls Online PVP? If so Im hoping I helped my short, succinct and accurate first two sentences.
If you've been here for a while (I'd say over 6 months, I concede thats completely arbitrary though) and you have not tempered your expectations you are a complete idiot and no amount of discussion can mitigate your stupidity.