If your light attack weaving is bad, don't use elemental weapon as the spammable. Use force pulse.
For the sets, use maw of infernal + julianos on body (since you don't have trial sets) + mother's sorrow front barred.
Try using the following skills,
This is the blue CP I found to be the best (but it's for max CP),
I'm guessing you only have 183CP for blue CP, so try the following,
Elemental Expert - 49
Elfborn - 56
Spell Erosion - 10
Master-at-Arms - 61
Staff Expert - 7
I guess you also need to improve your rotation, DoT uptimes etc, but I've no idea how one can track them on console.
An LFG tool where people can advertise their own groups would be the obvious answer, most MMOs have them (in GW2 it's actually the only grouping tool, there is no dungeon browser). Don't ask me why ZOS thinks this shouldn't be implemented. Consoles?
I know I usually stick to groups advertised as 'slow', 'casual', 'for the quest' because they are most likely to be friendly. Anonymous group finders I stay away from if possible.
When I put pug group together from Craglorn I switch instances all the time. I ask few minutes in 1 instance and then port to someone in my guild who's in Craglorn. Sometimes I end up back to the same instance because the guildy was in the same as I was but with couple of ports I usually get another instance. You can tell if u see your group mates mark over their heads but not their toon. Then I ask there for few minutes and port to another instance. This fills group very quick.
Not sure about group finder for trials but some kind of instance wide chat would be nice to have.
It is apparent that spirit mender needs a nerf. The mitigation is out of control, especially compared to the other sources of mitigation next patch after the rework to the buff system.
Additionally, the nerf to defile is a good step to balancing the class; however, if you observe the damage tooltip of blastbones, it is the same EXACT value as dawnbreaker of smiting, an ultimate. The fact that blastbones is coded with the same exact base damage as dawnbreaker is ludicrous, whoever thought this was ok should be fired. Blastbones needs to have the damage tooltip adjusted to equal wardens scorch. This change seems like a no brainers for balance.
It may say it's an instant but it certainly does not hit target instantly like e.g. Poison Injection does. Looks like it has "travel time" or sth.
Make sure to use it when your target is in a range it cannot escape the attack or is at low health. And ofc, never use it after the target has roll-dodged.
It's very strong and can literally execute your enemy when it lands but it's not very reliable.
Most of the time I use the bow proc when the enemy I’m fighting is stunned or low health so that it can finish them off. Try timing it after you hit an Incap because it will do more damage then.
I'm not sure on current instances caps or their total number, but I feel chat'd kind of be really overflooded if all the chats became one. Plus it'd be extremely difficult to differentiate between your and others instance - like, someone might call for help on WB, saying they already have 3 and need more, you go there and there's no one because you're in a different instance (grouping would solve that, but what if you don't wanna group, or are already in a group with someone else - should it really mean you cannot answer a call for help in zchat?). Likewise, trading with 'I'm right next to X wayshrinbe' would lead to endless frustration. Same goes for callouts such as M'aiq and other special spawns - they should be instance specific.
Perhaps some sort of separate non-zone non-instanced chat could help but I'm not sure just how flooded it would be and how much use it would be in that state (like, if there's a mesage there every second, I doubt you'd be able to find the one you actually need before it disappears). Groupfinder for arena and perhaps trial would be good though.